Aldous Huxley said “facts do not stop existing just because you ignore them”. In fact, it means that if we do not want to face reality, things will not just change . However, acceptance of reality, while it may harm us, can allow us to adapt. But some of these painful truths about life are the ones we forget all too soon.
It does not matter if you have lived a long or short life. You have probably at some point learned a valuable lesson in a painful way, directly or indirectly. Once in a while, it’s good for us to remember the truths we’ve learned the hard way. And also the truths about life that we have seen others suffer through.
It is not about living in fear, but it is also not about acting as if life were infinite, or as if we will always be able to enjoy the things we have in the moment. Truths about life can hurt, but they can also help us keep our feet on the ground. And above all, they help us enjoy the present with full awareness.
1. Being busy is not the same as being productive
We all need to have a goal in life, or at least we should all. Our goals require hard work and effort. Being productive means working towards achieving these goals. One thing we must not forget is that doing something implies that the task is going to bring us closer to what we are striving for.
Many people spend the day doing things. They fill their schedules with activities and spend hour after hour in front of their computer screens. But to reach a goal, you do not have to do much. You just have to do what is necessary. The problem is that what is needed is, in most cases, quite hard and complicated. And it is often easier to deal with other things that may be felt right away.
If you want to achieve something in life, you have to be really productive. You need to think about what you need to do and perform it effectively. Read about how to do something, plan your future and talk about what to do. Do things to try it, to see what works in this first phase. But if you want to get far and achieve a lot, you need to take even more steps.
When the day is over, it is not what you have done to achieve a certain thing, but what you have actually achieved that matters. It does not matter that you have worked hard, put many hours into something, invested a lot of money, felt a will or said and thought many things. Stop doing things just to do them and start being responsible and aware of your time and your actions.
2. For every success one will come to make mistakes
Making mistakes is human and this is one of the most important truths about life. Some are inevitable, others arise simply because certain factors were not taken into account or not considered important. It does not matter. If you seek support in your mistakes, you will learn things you will not find anywhere else.
When you learn from your mistakes, you improve. Only if you blame and mock yourself for your mistakes will you really fail. Because it in itself keeps you from moving forward.
To learn from a mistake, it is necessary to forgive yourself, and not be ashamed. Instead, try to see it as a starting point. Every great mind has experienced failure at some point. As long as you do not give up, nothing is completely lost.
The difference between the master and the apprentice is in the number of times both have failed. The master has failed many times. The more mistakes you make, the more opportunities you have to learn. And so you know more.
3. One of the truths about life that we often forget is that life is very short
The average lifespan of man is just over 80 years. In some areas and cultures, this average may be a little higher or maybe even a little lower. In either case, ten or twenty years is nothing compared to the thousand years of human history or the millions of years of history the universe has.
Death captures us all. The world will continue on its course and history will continue. But when someone in our life walks away, we experience a huge surprise and dismay. Even though it was an expected death, something in us is still changing.
How many things does the person who passed away still have left to do or say? How many things will the person miss? How many things did you want to say to that person but did not? How many things do you think you could have changed for the person but did not?
Many people, when they see that death is fast approaching, are aware that they have made many mistakes. That they let many opportunities pass by, that they have not lived freely. They realize that they have always been conditioned by their surroundings. Our time in this life is short. But it is enough if we take full advantage of it. Especially if we live by our values and seek to grow as human beings, based on the awareness of who we are and what we do.
The greatest loss does not happen when we die, but instead when we let opportunities to live fully pass us by.