If we were to draw a map of emotions and situations, we would realize that for many people, being alone and sadness are a close part of their lives. This is not just about loneliness in the person who is lonely himself. But it is also very normal to have pity on someone who seems isolated.
However, nothing is further from the truth. Being alone can only be understood as a burden when it is imposed; when a person wants support from a social network but does not get it. This loneliness has much more to do with the natural need to describe, talk, and tell a part of our story.
That’s why it’s devastating to older people. They feel they have accumulated wisdom that they need to share. That’s why they’re so grateful, as long as we spend our time with them. The grief that comes with imposed loneliness also has a lot to do with time, and the feeling that we may not be valuable enough for someone to spend their time with us anymore.
At the other end of the scale, there are those who choose to be alone; the need to escape from social noise. The need to distance ourselves to gain clarity. For everything that we were too close to felt blurred. This kind of loneliness is what makes us independent and gives us the resources to enjoy and feel whole, dependent only on ourselves.
“Being alone is the destiny of all great souls.”
You can do whatever you want whenever you want
If you are a person who enjoys solitude and lives alone in your house, then you are probably used to being the person you care about the most. Maybe even right now you are weighing the benefits of being alone, with the benefits of a life shared with another.
You are definitely thinking about how you can now just make plans, not have to explain yourself to anyone and can make spontaneous decisions. On the other hand, there is a security that one gets by having an unconditional support and a well-being that comes from sharing or being able to delegate some of the house’s responsibilities.
There are some people where this daily loneliness is just a temporary situation, and others who choose it forever. The most important thing is that it is your choice whether you are part of one or the other group. And not a reality that you will have to shape because you do not have the opportunity to live differently.
You will be able to love yourself before anyone else
They say that loneliness helps you mature as a person. It helps you get to know yourself. But keep in mind that this does not apply if you dive too deep into the feeling that you cannot get rid of your loneliness and start desperately looking for a way out.
“Why do we generally avoid being alone? Because only a few can find company in themselves. ”
If you have learned to be in yourself, take care of yourself, accept your strengths and your weaknesses and ultimately love yourself, you are on the right path to finding true happiness. It is because you are not dependent on having or not having a romantic relationship to achieve it. The perfect relationship should be what you have with yourself. Do not forget that from this relationship springs the relationship to others.
Cultivate the good friendships by being alone more often
Who says loneliness equals being isolated or not having friends? It could not be more untrue! Loneliness is the ability to live your way, and it does not conflict with having good friends who understand you, love you, respect your way of life and make you happy.
And when you choose to be alone, the opportunities to meet new people come because you have embarked on new activities without others necessarily having to join. People who share your taste will enrich your life.