Kindness: Strong Enough To Break Down Any Wall

Kindness: Strong enough to break down any wall

It seems that kindness is dying out in today’s world,  especially in big cities. There is an anthropological reason for that. We are colder and more tense towards other people when we live in places where there is a high population density. It is one of the things that makes it harder to be psychologically and emotionally healthy when living in these places.

There are many places where, for example, it is strange to greet one’s neighbors. People see it as a waste of time, nothing but pointless flattery. Everyone takes care of themselves. These are places  where people do not appreciate kind actions from others. There are also places where people are more likely to have anxiety, depression or just have a hard time going through life with a positive attitude.

This even happens in some families. Seeing each other every day and getting used to each other can make these types of actions disappear. But kind actions are not a luxury. They are a way of life that leaves a mark on your relationship with other people. They nurture positive emotions and protect you from the negative ones.

Genet for kindness

Science has proven that we all come into the world with a built-in gene for kindness. In other words, we are a race that needs others of the same race to survive. Biology proves it. That is why altruism and cooperation have always been such major factors in human development.

Children kiss mother to express kindness

Studies have shown that babies begin to show friendly behavior towards others at an early age, at the age of six months. They choose between shutting themselves in or opening themselves up to other people. They often choose to interact and be generous. They are also very receptive to other people’s kind actions towards them.

Basically, it is natural for us to be kind. Hostility is simply a result of our society pushing us towards extreme individualism. It is completely against our inner rules to look at others as strangers who have nothing to do with us.

Kindness is a strength

Kindness says a lot about your attitude. It shows self-control, self-confidence, empathy, seeing value in others  and awareness around your relationship as an individual in relation to the group. It is also a good strength to have when it comes to relationships. You will go far further with people by being kind than by being apathetic and short on the head.

Friendly people have a well-developed emotional intelligence. Kindness is one of the most contagious attitudes. It almost always leads to more kindness and goodness from everyone else. It is an excellent way to prevent conflicts or to ensure that they do not take precedence.

Two people of stone hug each other as an expression of kindness

Kindness can also help build personality. It means knowing how to be nice and considerate towards others, without neglecting oneself. With this attitude, one can reassure people when they are angry and comfort them when they are sad. It is no surprise that the  stem of the word “kindness” comes from the Indo-European word “to love”.

The benefits of kindness

It is important to remember that we are naturally social beings who want to cooperate with each other. So the goal is not to try to learn to be kind. It is to unlearn any hostile, disinterested behavior. You will not regret it.

There are great benefits to being kind. Here are just a few:

  • It protects your physical health. Friendly people have fewer conflicts with other people and the world around them. In relation to your brain, it means less cortisol (the “stress hormone”) and more oxytocin (the “happiness hormone”).
  • It preserves your mental health. Kindness to other people stabilizes your mood and prevents states of stress and anxiety. Kind actions make you feel better about yourself. They make you more confident.
  • It helps you to have good relationships. Kindness pulls you out of self-preoccupation and helps you connect with others. It lights up your surroundings so they will be more cooperative and accommodating, and helps things flow properly.
  • It’s a way to protect yourself from the “bad vibes” of others. Kindness also has the power to disable other people’s negative attitudes. It’s like a barrier – an effective response to aggression and rejection.
Friends standing and hugging in front of sunrise

As a last resort, there is one big thing we need to point out. Being kind does not mean letting people treat one badly  or always “turning the other cheek.” It is an affirming way of behaving and communicating where you ensure that you never step on others’ toes or behave insensitively.

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