Quiet people are in incomprehensible equilibrium in this hectic world. Their calm gaze, good manners and the fact that they have both legs planted on the ground make them considered shy. The truth, however, is that they have a good attitude towards life and they have worked hard to achieve inner peace.
As Albert Einstein wisely said, the monotony and loneliness of a quiet life is what motivates a creative mind. Oddly enough, this serene image does not resonate much in today’s society. In her book, Susan Cain reminds us of the personality traits of the posed or introverted.
It is e.g. common for teachers to misinterpret students who are relaxed, serene, and quiet. They may instead see them as apathetic, shy, and withdrawn. Some teachers will jokingly call them students without personality. In our society, we place increasing emphasis on people who are participative and say things out loud.
It is important to keep in mind that there are no personalities who are better or worse than others. The variation in human behavior and personality enriches the world. We each have something special to contribute to the people around us. That being said, we still need understanding and awareness of the value that lies in each individual personality type.
The brain of quiet people
The brains of quiet people work a little differently. This idea may sound surprising, but it is not new. In the 60s, the well-known psychologist, Hans Eysenck, introduced the concept of cortical arousal. He used this concept to explain why quiet people are often so different from extroverted people.
Other research confirms the hypothesis that Eysenck brought to the fore at the time. In 2012, researchers from Harvard University set out to investigate this idea further. Let’s look at the basis of the study and what they found:
- Outgoing people need more dopamine to be happy. As a consequence, they are looking for new experiences and need frequent social contact to maintain the level they need to be at to feel good.
- For quiet people, the opposite is true. They feel joy at a lower level of dopamine. When they exceed their limit value, they experience anxiety, pressure and exhaustion. Therefore, they feel happiest in relaxed harmonious situations.
- In addition, the researchers discovered a structural difference in the prefrontal cortex in quiet people. They have more gray matter, which is related to abstract thinking. This shows us that this personality type he tends to be more reflective and look more into himself.
Quiet human habits
Just because a person is quiet does not mean that he or she is happier, capable of being more or more intelligent. Active, nervous and outgoing people can also be all of this. What it does mean is that they see the world differently.
They relate differently to their surroundings and their daily habits are different. Taking this into account makes them easier to understand. Additionally, if you understand, then you can imitate the traits that you think will be beneficial.
Quiet human traits
- They enjoy solitude. Therefore, they know that the path to self-knowledge comes by being for itself. When they are alone, their creativity awakens, they can deal with their fears and set themselves goals.
- They are selective. Quiet people know what is best for themselves, just as they know what can shake them. They know what to let pass and what to take advantage of. That is why they are so good at choosing who they want in their lives.
- They do not take things personally. People who are obsessed with disagreements, frictions and defeats often feel bad. It is important to know how to take a step back and get some perspective on things. Quiet people know how to maintain a healthy distance between themselves and others. They also understand that everything in life is a process. The important thing is to move forward as slowly as possible.
- They take the time to see, listen, feel and learn… Nothing is as rewarding as when you go in one with your surroundings with all your senses. Quiet people have a calm exterior, but inside they are hungry for emotions and experiences. With that said, their ideal learning path begins with silence. They have an observant gaze and listening ears that can distinguish sounds from noise.
- Slow is better. In a noisy and stressful world, quiet people are the only ones who are not in a hurry. It’s because they know where they want to go. They know themselves well enough to know what their rhythm, pauses and music are like. The path to their goal is clear to them. Quiet people want to take one thing at a time. A slow and peaceful day just feels better.
Let us not underestimate the power that quiet and peaceful people can have. Their inner calm and relaxed charisma can teach us a lot of things. Sometimes the best revolutions start with silence.